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I’ve been married for 33 years and no, I don’t believe in soulmates. I don’t think there’s just one person out there for everyone. I think you could make things work with a number of different people.
My feeling in any relationship was always that if the good outweighs the bad, you should stay. If the bad outweighs the good, you’d be better off on your own. (I guess I’m a pragmatist, rather than a romantic.)
I think the concept of “soulmates” assumes someone else can or should “make you happy.” In reality, only you can make yourself happy. You are responsible for your own happiness.
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I 110% agree Mary!!
You were a beautiful bride wow!!! 🤩
But how is it possible that ‘93 was 33 years ago?!
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Thank you CJ! And I know. It’s crazy. My 40th(!) high school reunion has come and gone.
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Put me in the agree column in the ledger of marriage and happiness.
What a lovely wedding photo!
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Thanks so much Laurie! It’s so nice to have a partner in all of life’s adventures ❤️
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Beautiful, beautiful photo, Mary. Such life! I mostly agree with you, but I do think sometimes we get some kind of cosmic nudge. hehe
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Thank you Stephanie! And I agree that some couples seem like true destiny.
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A beautiful couple! I too, agree, MaryG. A friend who was a divorce attorney before she retired said to a group of us long-marrieds that there was little difference between us and many of her clients—except more than a few of them told her after the fact that they’d made a mistake.
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I agree with what you said 100 percent. Especially the part about how only you are responsible for your own happiness. YES. 💜
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With you all the way……
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I agree, and disagree.
It’s true you won’t be happy in a relationship unless you’re happy with yourself first. But I do believe in finding your person. I met and married mine in 6 days, 42 years ago. We shouldn’t have worked. Different generations, different personalities, different tastes, different upbringings. But it works. Our souls… fit. I can’t imagine life with anyone else.
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