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What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts?
This is a hard one for me to answer. I’ve been dealing with a lot of negative thoughts since the beginning of this year, due to a situation that has forever changed my feelings about my family of origin.
I’ll be interested to read others’ responses.
I guess distraction is one way!
So, here’s a mommy and baby osprey in their very dramatic nest near the beach on the South Coast of Massachusetts:
And some video of the two interacting:
New England has many beautiful areas, but this one is my favorite. The ocean is noticeably warmer here than in Northern New England and there are never shark sightings like on Cape Cod (knock wood) so you can get in and swim to your heart’s content.
Actually, that’s my answer: swimming is the best way to deal with negative thoughts.
Go for a swim, people!
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Distraction is key. I tend to mull over problems for way too long and get stuck in a rut. Walking the beach is soul soothing.
But we just had a great white spotted in Harpswell, Maine yesterday. Totally unheard of!
😳🦈😳
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Oh no! 🦈
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That beach 😍
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It’s the best 😎
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Beautiful beach! The Buddhist approach is to hold on and then let it go. Easier said than done. With me, angry feelings are like a fire and I just have to wait for it to burn out.
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Yes, time lessens them, but with an everlasting scar…
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Very difficult.
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The ocean is a wonderful soother: seeing it, hearing it, smelling it. I love the pounding of the surf – everything about it.
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It truly is. I’m grateful that I can get there fairly easily from where I live
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Set a timer. Be negative for 15-minutes and then do something to move your body or focus your energy. If they creep in, say, “I did that for 15-minutes already,” and then engage fully in something else. You may have to have 15-minutes four times a day for awhile and then with subsequent weeks pare back to three times daily and so forth.
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That sounds like a great and practical strategy! Thank you so much!!
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For me it’s a med. The med aint 100% perfect, but it does curtail most negative thoughts.
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I’m glad you have that
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Swimming as your answer to the heavy stuff really lands with me. And what a place to do it — a warm New England beach with an osprey family nesting nearby sounds restorative all on its own. Sorry this year has been carrying some hard things; wishing you many good days in that water. We’ve found the ocean works quiet magic on our whole crew’s moods too.
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i’ve never been to cape code but i do love boston
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👍
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