What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?
I recently read a good article in The Atlantic about the “red pill” of humility and how it may benefit us and make us happier.
Here’s how the author defines humility:
Humility—modesty about one’s own importance or expertise—can refer to an act (for example, giving up a good seat for another), a condition (living in an unflashy way), or a trait (avoiding the assumption that you are always right). It can be practiced intellectually—a concept called “epistemic humility,” seen in discussions of, for example, religion or politics—and socially, in our relationships with others, which can involve refraining from behaviors such as boasting, for instance.
The author says there’s research showing that left to their own devices, people tend to overestimate their strengths and underestimate their weaknesses. (Hey, didn’t we just spend like 10 years talking about the opposite scenario: imposter syndrome?)
Anyway, he goes into great detail about the many health, wellness, leadership and even romantic benefits of increased humility.
He gives some good ideas about how to increase humility, like taking in more awe-inspiring views of the natural world.
He also gives some questionable advice, like asking your friends to call you out on any puffery you post on social media. (Don’t think I have a friend close enough to assign that awkward task!)
I think I might at least try a couple of his good ideas, because I really can’t think of a significant topic or issue I’ve changed my mind about in the last decade. And that seems like a red flag that I could use a red pill or two on occasion.

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Never knew this pull.
Thank you for this interesting post.
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Read…pill
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Thank you for reading it!
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You are welcome, Mary G
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Very interesting. Asking a friend to be a “reality monitor “ is a pretty big ask! I wonder if social media has been the big influence that swung the pendulum the other way. Because I agree with you – I thought imposter syndrome was pretty common.
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It’s also interesting how he linked higher humility (simply acknowledging that you “may be wrong”) with higher ANXIETY. We’ve seen such a huge increase in societal anxiety these past few years, I wonder if the coping mechanism of reassuring yourself that you and your friends are “right” is wearing off.
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I see the correlation of humility to anxiety. That kind of makes sense. I never would have thought to connect those dots, though. Maybe a case of having to take the good with the bad.
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