My granddaughter is perfect.

There’s no feeling like holding your first grandchild for the first time. It’s an experience of pure love. It’s a bit different than the new parent feeling of baby love, which is such a huge life-altering event. (Your life is ever after divided into two parts—before and after.)
Becoming a grandparent is just a…gift. A gift from the universe. I’m crying as I write this. I don’t love the word “blessed” because of its association with traditional Christianity, but…I mean…heck… it sure does apply here.
I’ve been searching for quotes about becoming a grandparent that resonate. I kind of like this one:
“Grandchildren are the reward for those who have labored as parents.”
But I don’t love the word “reward” in it. Children are not rewards.
Becoming a grandparent is just awesome. That’s all I can say. I know I’m very lucky too. For whatever reasons, the birthrate is way down in the US. A significant number of millennials are choosing not to have children. I’m just so fortunate that my wonderful daughter and her partner have chosen to take the parenthood plunge.
And some practical advice for new grandmothers (based on my one week of experience):
Don’t be annoying.
Be helpful.
Let the parents figure out how to feed and care for their brand new baby. Do your best to take care of the parents—with meals, cleaning, recycling boxes, and whatever else they obviously need. Some ideas have changed since we had kids, especially around bottle vs breast “nipple confusion.” Don’t assert yourself too hard with your old ideas. And don’t say any of those annoying things that all mothers have up their sleeve! Tell the parents how awesome they’re doing at life’s hardest job.
One thing you will always be 100% in agreement on is that their baby (“our” baby 😉) is the cutest baby.
I’ve mentioned before how much I enjoyed the Leanne Morgan comedy special “I’m Every Woman” on Netflix. This bit about becoming a grandma is one of my favorite parts 😂🤣😂
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Utterly adorable! Again, congrats, congrats! Very sound advice.
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Thank you Laurie!
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Congrats!
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Thank you Ernie!
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Congratulations! Beautiful photo! 😊
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Thank you so much Laura!
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So, so wonderful, Mary!! Completely precious and very happy for you. Your daughter and son-in-law are SO FORTUNATE to have you, with your considerate balances, there for support and just plain LOVE. ❤
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Thank you so much for this lovely comment Stephanie. I so appreciate it. You made me cry again. 🥹❤️
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Great photo!
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Thanks May!
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So happy for you all, Mary! Your face just radiates joy!
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Thank you so much Kathy. ❤️
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Lovely photo, Mary! Congrats!
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Thank you so much Lauren!
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You’re welcome, Mary!
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So adorable. And great advice for grandmothers. I watched my mom heed the same advice through six grandkids. It definitely keeps the harmony in the family. Enjoy this special time!
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Thank you so much! Hopefully I will keep following my own advice.
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Enjoy every moment!
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Excellent advice 🙏🏼😃
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