Apathy vs Anger

Do you ever wonder what regular old middle class Germans chatted about in say…1935? Did they mostly carry on as if everything was basically OK? Did they politely avoid talking about “politics” in social situations?

It’s definitely getting harder to continue having light, casual conversations with people who are completely unperturbed by what’s happening in our country right now. (You know, those folks who can somehow just ignore an American President who flouts our laws, attacks journalists, outlaws all diversity initiatives, and wants to annex Canada.)

On the other hand, I’m not (yet) up for joining “The Fight” to save our country, which so many of my liberal friends have already embraced wholeheartedly. It all failed so miserably in 2024, I feel like they’re missing something.

I really do wonder about Germany.

Happy-looking members of the “League of German Girls” in 1935 (source: Wikipedia). I wonder what they were hearing at home from their parents.

Duh!

Posted on Facebook by “Feminist News”

My first thought when I saw this post was “no shit.” Do some women actually think they have to vote how their husbands do? (And don’t even get me started on churches. Pastors should not be telling their flocks how to vote. And if they do, they should get their nonprofit tax-exempt status revoked.)

My second thought was “how sad.” So many women are stuck in power-imbalanced marriages and feel they can’t get out.

I’ve been married 31 years and my husband (thankfully) never even entertained the idea of voting for Trump, but we’ve had plenty of other fights. Two things he’s never done is physically threaten me (even though he’s much bigger and stronger than me) or try to control what I do (even though he earned much more money than I did when we were both working).

If you’re being controlled by your husband or boyfriend—either physically or mentally—you should be making your escape plan. I firmly believe that.

And did you see that interview that Kamala did with Fox News? Infuriating! Fuck Bret Baier. Fuck him right in the ass.

18 more days.

Doom scrolling

Which activities make you lose track of time?

I spend far too much time scrolling. My husband calls it “doom scrolling.”

Periodically, I delete different apps (like Facebook) from my phone or computer, so I won’t spend so much time looking at it, but I always end up reinstalling.

With Twitter, I was pissed at Elon Musk, so I deleted my whole account and can’t figure out how to get it back, so I’m logged into my husband’s account and am forbidden to like or post anything while in it.

Doom scrolling screenshot from “For You” Twitter/X feed

Why don’t they show us more cat videos? It’s the “algorithm,” right? They have us pegged as furious Democrats, I guess. Doom scrolling just makes me madder.

Twitter: A Place for Your Rage

It’s been four years since I posted anything in this blog, which was a sort of mid-life experiment in connected creativity.  Everyone was doing it.  It seemed fun!  Looking back on those posts from 2015-2016, I feel as though they are from a completely different time in history.  They are from pre-Trump America.  Cold winters! youth sports! reading glasses! Were those topics really top-of-mind just four years ago? Here’s a photo of me, in my pantsuit, going to vote for America’s first female President on Tuesday, November 8, 2016 – the very last day of that era.  That was such a good day!  I skipped choir rehearsal that night to stay home and watch history being made.

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Well, we all know how that turned out.  Tears, disbelief, consoling my college-aged daughter, and booking a trip to Washington DC to be part of the first massive Women’s March, were among my first moves in this new era.

I am well aware that the daily challenges I face living in Trump’s America, as a white college-educated woman born in this country, are mostly emotional.  Immigrants, journalists, scientists, poor young women in need of healthcare and many others face actual threats to their lives and livelihoods.  Still, my emotional challenges are real to me.  And with ANGER being the biggest one, I’m glad I discovered Twitter.  It seems like venting is its raison d’être.  Things that are just “too political” for Facebook can be said, and very succinctly, on Twitter.  And guess what?  It turns out that many other people are thinking the exact same thing.  Maybe it’s true that it’s just an “echo chamber” further cementing our differences, but it’s also a relief.  You are most definitely not alone in thinking whatever your thinking.  Rage away people.  That’s what we do now.