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Occasionally women embarrass me by doing things that seem to play into stereotypes about us. The gold digger, the gossip, the busybody, etc.
Typically I expect better of women than men, especially ones that have been around for six decades or more. They should know what truly matters in life by our age. They should be using their outgoing personalities and superior verbal skills to bring people together, rather than bickering about nonsense.
In my role as an Executive Team member of my church (thankfully ending soon!), I have been unwillingly cc’d on waaaay too many emails this year.
One recent exchange:
Woman 1:
“overkill”
Woman 2:
“rude” “rash” “confrontational” “provocative”
Woman 1:
“Rants” “put downs” “micromanager”
Result:
Awkwardness for the EIGHT people cc’d on the conversation
Relationship effectively ended between the two women
Good GAWD ladies!
This is not how email should be used!
And if I told you what they were arguing about, you would die about how stupid and minor it is.
Honestly, it reminds me of my role as Mrs. Squires in my high school’s production of The Music Man. Here’s a professional version of our big number when all the self-important hens in the town get together to gossip and complain (aka “pick a little, talk a little”):
And just for fun, here’s me on stage in my high school’s 1983 production of The Music Man:
Pick-a-little, Talk-a-little
CHEEP
🐓
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Fun picture of you. Not so fun experience with those two women. Look at the bright side…at least they weren’t openly discussing their plans for bombing Yemen.
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Right! 🤣
(They were talking about something approximately one zillion times less consequential!)
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I had a few minutes for blog reading this morning, Mary, and I’m glad I read yours. Love the photo of you, and honestly, we stopped going to our church because of some behavior of people we had known for years, both men and women. Church people aren’t perfect. So that was the end of organization religion for us. We were raised in the church and raised our children going to church, so this change (4 years ago) felt strange at first, but when you go to church to find God and find that he isn’t there, it’s a sign. We find him more outdoors among nature. I’ll stop now, but your post got me going. 🙂 I was also in musicals and sang solos back in the day, so your photos were fun! Have a good weekend. 💕
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Thanks for reading & commenting Lauren. I know many people find God in nature, which is wonderful. I joined my UU church mainly because I like to sing in the choir. I’ve always loved singing with others. I’m not much of a soloist, but I have done a few.
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I used to sing in the choir, so I understand that connection, Mary. 🎶
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