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I think I’m past the age of worrying too much about the details. For years, I felt like I had to be on top of all the details of everybody’s lives. From toddler meals to travel basketball to college applications — the family schedule was a big deal. If you messed up, someone ate something that they were allergic to, or an important event was missed, or someone got left waiting outside in the cold.
One good thing about being an empty nester is that your time is bascially your own, outside of work.
Now, I’m more about the big picture. The “details” I care about are the optional ones that make life more meaningful like catching up with a friend, seeing a performance, talking with my book group, or traveling someplace with my husband.
I’ve had two friends (my age) recently tell me that they prefer spontaneous, rather than planned, get togethers. They don’t like putting things on the calendar way ahead and then having to cancel or reschedule because someone is sick or whatever. I can see their point. Although I’m still basically a planner, I will call or text people last-minute if I’m nearby.
They say the “devil is in the details,” so screw the details. Just do what you want, with people you like, whenever you can.
Sadly, this advice does not apply to young parents. You have to put your kids first for at least 18 years, but you’ll be shocked at how fast that goes by.
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Sounds like you now have more time to relax and enjoy your interests and fun!
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Yes. I do miss having my kids in the house, but that’s life. Parenting is basically one long leave taking, especially for mothers, as they literally start as part of our bodies.
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I couldn’t agree more with your perspective! It’s amazing how life shifts its focus as we transition into different stages. Embracing the freedom to prioritize meaningful experiences and connections over the minutiae of daily planning is such a liberating feeling. And you’re absolutely right; as empty nesters, it’s a well-deserved reward for all those years of dedicated parenting. Your wisdom about cherishing moments with loved ones and doing what brings joy is truly inspiring. Time indeed flies, especially when raising children, so making the most of it with those you care about is precious. Here’s to living life on your terms and savoring every moment! 🌟🥂
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Thank you! What a lovely comment. The empty nest is bittersweet, but I’m learning to love the “upside” more and more. Thanks again!
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We’re in the same empty nester boat, Mary. While we miss our adult kids because they don’t live nearby, our time is ours alone, like you said. Sometimes we plan and sometimes we let spontaneity lead the way. Our son who is 28 has been on a remote working/travel adventure since May. He’s working his way from Maine to CA, home for the holidays, and is currently in Colorado. He’ll stay with us for a month or two to decide where he wants to plant roots. My point is that we’ll have to get used to living with someone again besides just each other. Can’t wait though, and then he’ll be out again, and we’ll have to adjust again. 🙂
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I’m glad your son will be with you for a month or more! My daughter and her boyfriend bought a home in our state (phew!) but I don’t know where our son will go after he graduates college in the spring. I will have a very hard time if he moves far away.
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